Confused, nervous, restless and restless. That's what men usually feel when they want to ask for the prospective in-laws ahead of the wedding. This is indeed unavoidable and must be done because marriage is not only the union of two individuals, but also the union of two families. This is the reason you have to ask for the parents' permission in order to marry the lover.
It's not easy indeed because you have to think of every word that comes out of your mouth to be blessed by the marriage. However, don't worry, if you really do everything will go smoothly. Here are a few tips to smoothly take the hearts of prospective in-laws.
First, make sure your physical and spiritual readiness.
Before you meet the prospective spouse's parents, it helps you prepare mentally and physically in advance. Ask yourself if you are able to take responsibility for others for the rest of your life, are you able to pay for the lives of others other than yourself. If the answer to your question is 'already', you are ready to propose to your partner and start a new life with him.
In this phase, don't think much about other things than thinking positive so everything runs smoothly. Do not be confused thinking about what words are suitable later when asking for blessing. Enough with your mental preparation first, then later it will run smoothly.
Second, try to do several meetings with prospective in-laws.
Parents will see sincerity when you look serious about wanting to get to know a potential mate, including getting to know their family. At the meeting, give a good impression on the prospective in-laws, for example by neatly dressed and not indecent. Do not let the clothes that do not match, your struggle becomes in vain. Parents definitely want to provide the best for their children.
Neatly dressed does not mean showing expensive clothes, nor showing off wealth but dressing to look clean. Dressed neatly can arouse the mood of the people you meet. At least they feel valued by you.
When you dress neatly, don't forget to be polite too. You must know how to behave towards older people. Understand that attitude to peers is different from your attitude to older people. If they are of the opinion, then listen and respect that opinion.
Third, you can meet again to ask for your blessing.
The first thing you must feel must be nervous, but this must be avoided because nervousness can destroy all the plans you have made. To start a more serious chat, you can explain your readiness for marriage. Do not just say it, but prospective in-laws need to know evidence of your mental and financial readiness to settle down. Establish a good relationship so that the percentage received is greater.
Fourth, immediately apply when you have the blessing.
In this phase, you can breathe a little because you have actually received the blessing of the prospective in-laws, only the proposal is done to make your application process more formal and also witnessed by family, relatives and friends of both parties. Make good communication during this phase up to the wedding day so that there are no significant problems ahead of the wedding.
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