After Marriage, Will You Have Children Or Postponed Right Away?
Every newly married couple will certainly not escape the discussion of wanting to have a baby immediately or prefer to enjoy time together in advance with their partner. Starting a family does not always have to speed up having a baby. But is it also wise enough to delay the presence of the baby?
Do not be a dilemma with the above questions and statements because the answers are not right and wrong, but rather a choice, a choice from you and your partner. If you choose to have a baby and take care of your child immediately after marriage, there are psychological factors that you should consider.
Although the presence of the baby can provide different happiness, but you get another big responsibility. There is one more individual whom you will fund your body and mind. Are you ready to provide education for the baby? You and your partner must have a balanced responsibility to raise the baby. You and your partner must also trust each other and respect each other.
For a woman, the age factor is a very influential factor for having a baby. When based on the medical world, the ideal age to have a baby is the age of 20-35 years. So, if you are married at that age, you should be ready to have a baby. Another if you get married above the estimated age, then you will be vulnerable to pregnancy problems.
There is another external factor that plays an important role in determining whether you immediately have a baby after marriage or want to be alone with a partner, the pressure from various parties. Is it from parents, relatives or colleagues. From parents, for example, told to immediately have a baby because they want to pet grandchildren as soon as possible.
You can also see close friends who already have a baby, so you are moved also want to have a baby like them. Especially when gathering with friends, only you do not bring the baby, then you feel awkward because the chat is also different. Chat is no longer a trivial problem, but the chat has been to a child's problem.
From all of these things, you need to be aware of what underlies your choices. What is the reason you choose to be alone with your partner first, and what underlies you must have a baby after marriage. All must be clear.
Whatever you choose, of course you have a strong reason, of course, with a decision together and of course in accordance with the wishes of you and your partner. Do not choose because of the compulsion of the environment or just because it follows prestige simply because the one who goes through it is you and your partner, not someone else.
So you need to choose wisely these two things because it will affect the continuity of your marriage going forward. Happy housekeeping.
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